What marriage taught me !

If you ignore my physical looks which are totally feminine , I had always been a tomboy at heart. So when it came to getting married I was in total dilemma. I had no idea what marriage was about .All I knew was it was another social obligation and was necessary to give some peace of mind to my retired father whose only left responsibility was to marry me off.


So, when it came for choosing a groom I took the safest bet. I decided I'll marry my best friend for 12 years and that turned out to be the wisest decision of my life so far.


I will be married for 3 years this December and this institution has already taught me a lot.

1. Where my happiness lies!

It taught me no matter how ambitious I may get, or what money I earn or how powerful I become ....The only things that actually make me (or can I say woman here) happy are the small things I can do for my husband, whether its cooking for him, washing his clothes, or simply waiting for him to get back home from the ship..thats what truly keeps me happy and I can trade this for the highest post in the world. Period!

2. Egos are to be dumped.
Being a Leo gal I was born with it.I learnt that my Ego was a waste. For marriage sometimes I even trade my self respect.I dumped this three word monster from my life.

3. Fights don't last forever.
Fight , sleep and forget. No use lingering on who said what and why. Thankfully my husband practices the same concept.

4.Respect is important.
Respect for each other , for both the side families and for your own selves. Fight as much as you can but do not disrespect . That creates a long time wound
and effects love most!! So be careful here.

5.Keep nuisance creating people at bay.
There are some people around you(thanks to Indian social system) who have nothing else to do but to create havocs in other peoples life. Be careful to whom you listen to and do not let anyone ( not even parents), I literally mean anyone interfere in your marital life. !!

6.Money is important.Save!!
When poverty knocks on the door love flies out of the window. Yes, I truly believe that. Not that I ever had to experience that ..ThankGod!! But monetary stability does give your relationship a stability.How can you experience love when all you are doing all day is worry about basic luxuries in life.!

7.Friendship and Team Work!!
Last but definitely not the least there is nothing nobler or more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.

The goal in marriage is not to be alike, but to be together.




2.5 years of marital bliss and I feel transformed and still a long way to go!